So I was in China a couple of years back for a business trip. I was on the internet a couple of weeks before to hire an escort to keep me company when I get there. So I had this petite, hot, Chinese escort meet me at the airport. Jackpot! I thought. Her skin was perfectly, flawless. The moment we were in the car, she had her hands all over me and lips, tongue all over my face. It was really erotic especially since I just got down from almost an entire day of flight. We of course got it on in my hotel room until I fell asleep and nursed my jet lag. I woke up the afternoon of the next day, ready to face the real world. By business, of course. I left her in the hotel room and got back to her just before dinner. We had the appetizer in bed, of course. Then we had dinner at a classy restaurant. During dinner, that was the only time I realized we really didn't talk. Maybe because I was jet lagged, I didn't realize that the only time I heard her voice was when she moaned during sex. The entire time I was awake and talking, I was talking alone. I started the conversation during dinner and in broken English, she said, "Sorry, no English." I cut my trip short. I usually spend an exact amount of business days for pleasure days. But what's the point? It can't always be all play and no talk.

My husband has always been the silent type. In bed, all I could get from his is a grunt when he comes and that's it. He doesn't moan, nor talk dirty to me. I've always thought that all men were like that.

I know some of you guys might be laughing, but I consider myself sexually naive. The only man I've had in my life is my husband. Sure, I hear talks about sex with girlfriends and their escapades are always wayyy different from what I have.

Is being silent in bed normal for men?

About your story (sorry, I tend to talk about myself first... ALOT!), I am surprised that a man could forego on such exquisite beauty and mindblowing sex just because of conversation. I thought that only women go for that stuff and men just wants to stick their dicks in.

I disagree with you. In our book Escorting Secrets we point out that there are plenty of men who see escorts purely for sex, and plenty of escorts who offer a ‘sexual menu’ on their web sites. On the other hand, there are plenty of men (particularly older men) who value the non-sexual aspect of escort work, and plenty of escorts who can give men a great time and remain fully dressed.

No escort can control the motivations of her clients. But the majority of men willing to pay $200/hr and upwards for companionship are usually looking for something more than just mere sucking and fucking